I
have lived in France since I was 15 and gave birth
to my first child who I started to bring up by
myself with help from my parents as I lived with
them. A few years ago, my mum and dad sold their
house to change areas and to be near my older
sister. I decided to stay here as I had found a
boyfriend and thought it would be time start my life
with my son.
As
the sale went fast, I needed to find a place of my
own and found a one bedroom place. After a while my
boyfriend and I thought we would live together. He
was willing to take my son on and he loved him as if
he was his own, so we became a couple with a child
in a small place. A few years ago I became pregnant
with my second child and this is where the trouble
started.
I
had a problem with the pregnancy and suffered a
placenta praevia. As I knew that thing weren't going
to be easy, we decided to ask for some help from my
parents. I asked my mum if she could look after my
son while I did my best to take my pregnancy to
term. From then on things went bad. My second child
was born at six months and spent two months in
paediatric care near where we lived. Here I was with
my son living miles away and my daughter fighting
for her life, but as we knew that our son was safe
and we spoke to him on the phone nearly every day,
we thought things were going to be fine. The only
thing we had left to do was move, but then a letter
arrived to says that a French judge had put my son
and my new baby under the assistance of a educateur
and that also the CAF put it in the hands of a
tutelle and we don't know why. Now we have moved and
I have a 3rd child who is a year old.
In
each report that is done for the judge, they say
that my house is not clean and that my children
don't get the love that they need and that we are
incapable parents. I have become so depressed that I
panic when they hurt themselves or I am so
frightened that they will take my children away that
my health is playing up. If this is what it is like
having a family life, then I would never have
started it.
Do
they have the right to do this because it is ripping
my family apart and I don't think I can take it much
longer? All I want is that they leave us alone and
that the rumours stop, because now everybody knows.
Please help me